When I first started having sex, my high school bae and I were still living with our parents. Sex had to be COMPLETELY SILENT. ? At the time it was exciting – orgasming was like an almighty supernova in the silent vacuum of space! ?
Eventually I moved out, but sharing a living-space with housemates wasn’t exactly conducive to loud sex either. Even when I rented a little attic flat there was the landlady downstairs to worry about.
Supernovas in the vacuum of space are great and all, but years of silent sex can get a little frustrating when all you want to do is let loose and get vocal in the sheets. Hearing your partner moan with pleasure, talk dirty to you, or swear out loud because your #skillz feel so unbearably good can be such a turn on! It’s also extremely useful to get and give live feedback in the heat of the action so you know (without getting too technical) when to change things up and when you should under NO circumstances change what you’re doing.
If, for whatever reason, you haven’t had much experience with loud sex, but you’d really like to give it a try, then this post is for you!
Choose the right time and/or place
If you have a shared living arrangement of any kind – that includes parents, roommates, housemates, or even your own children – then exploring loud sex is all about choosing your moment – or finding the right place to do it.
It isn’t enough to sneakily lock the door. You’re not going to simply rub one out silently under the shower! ? You need to be 100% certain you’ve got the place to yourself, because things are about to get expressive and you’re going to want some privacy so that you can feel completely uninhibited. Maybe your folks are away for the weekend and you’ve got the place to yourself. Maybe your housemate is out at the movies, or maybe you’ve just dropped off the kids at soccer. NOW’S YOUR CHANCE! Just make sure you aren’t too rushed for time, because it can be hard to relax when the clock is ticking.
If no matter what you do, you just can’t get the kind of privacy you need to let loose, then you might have to find a different venue. Does your partner have a place that’s better suited to your vocal exploration needs? If not, then it’s time to take yourselves away for the weekend! Why not turn the experience into a full blown fantasy-come-true and book a sexy night at a hotel? Sure, the people next door might hear you, but A) You’ll probably never see them again in your life. And B) They’ll probably just be a little envious of all the fun you had.
Try loud masturbation first
So you’ve organised the perfect slice of privacy for you and bae to give loud sex a go, but you’re suddenly struck by stage fright? If the thought of having loud sex makes you a little self-conscious, then don’t put extra pressure on yourself by trying it for the first time with someone else. Give loud mastrubation a go first!
After all, masturbation is the ultimate sexual exploration space. It’s just you – no judgment, no need to figure out how you’re being received, no need to please anyone other than yourself. Start slowly. When the pleasure starts to mount, try sighing. Let that grow into a gentle moan. Whisper something you find really sexy. Even if you feel a little silly at first, it’s the perfect way to grow in confidence and to get to know your own voice in that context.
You might just find that the sound of yourself is such a turn on that you start to cry out in ecstasy – and the next time you share an orgasm with someone else, you might just feel confident and sexy enough to show them your wild side!
Try this reward system
All six vibrators in IMTOY’s Zoo Collection can connect to their own special app on your smartphone via Bluetooth. The app unlocks all kinds of extra features, including a voice feature. When activated, the microphone in your phone picks up any sounds in the room and translates them into softer or harder vibrations in your toy depending on the volume!
Basically, the more noise you make, the harder the toy vibrates! This is a really fun reward system for living your pleasure out loud. You can try it out alone or hand over the controls to someone else. You’ll be moaning for more in no time!
Check out the Zoo Collection and try it out for yourself!
In the meantime you can tell me your favourite (or funniest) loud sex stories! ?
Photos: Gabriel Matula