As soon as high school biology classes turned to the topic of reproduction or the human body, snickering would rustle through the ranks of the classroom. It never ceased to amaze me how obsessed my classmates were about sex, and yet how uncomfortable they became when discussing the mechanics of it.
Mine wasn’t the only classroom full of snickering and uncomfortable teens, and I believe that’s because, for many of us, discussions about sex with our parents were either completely taboo, heavily discouraged, or earnest but very awkward.
With a start like that it’s no wonder so many of us grow up into adults that find communicating about sex with our partners a little challenging. No one gifted us with the poise, confidence or vocabulary necessary to talk about it!
As the folks over at Autostraddle point out, talking to your partner or partners about sex “can be scary, especially if you’re not clear on what exactly it is you want out of sex or a relationship. If you’re not clear about it in your head, it can be harder to verbalize things.”
That’s why they put together this amazing worksheet full of “suggestions, helpful things to think about, and creative ways of looking at things we want in the sack.”
Try it out for yourself! It could make for the perfect icebreaker with your partner(s) too!
Photo: Anna Sastre